These condom tips might seem basic, but they are important! Also, even if some of these might be old news, it never hurts to brush up on sexual safety. Here
FIND THE RIGHT FIT
Show me any penis, and I’ll show you a brand that will fit. There’s no excuse being too big, short, thick, or whatever. There is always something out there that will fit you properly.
PUT IT ON THE RIGHT WAY
After you’ve opened it the right way, more on that later, put the condom on the tip of your fingers and test to make sure you’re rolling it the right way.
Pinch the tip (to leave room for ejaculate)
Add a couple of drops of lube inside (extra pleasure).
Place it on the tip and use one hand to hold it while the other hand rolls it down to the base.
When you’re done, hold the base while pulling out.
CHECK THE EXPIRARY DATE
Old condoms lose their strength and stretch. This could lead to breakage (which is, duh, bad). They will last around five years or less if there is spermicide.
CHECK THE PACKAGE
Make sure there are no tears or punctures in any of the packaging (the box or the cover). This could come from tampering or being stored incorrectly (e.g. don’t keep them with your keys!)
STORE THEM RIGHT
Not in your wallet and not in the glove compartment. Store them in a cool, dry place away from any sharp objects and direct sunlight.
DON’T BUY ON HOLIDAY
If you’re going for some big holiday or vacation, make sure you stock up before you leave. Packs in the hotel or other such places will have a much higher markup. On another similar note, don’t buy them on online sites that come from individual sellers (like Ebay or Etsy). Stick to trusted sellers.
CAREFUL OPENING IT
You’ve probably seen someone peel open the cover with their teeth (I’ve been guilty of that, especially when my lands are covered in lube), or you/your partner has impressively long nails. Either way, be careful opening things that you don’t damage what’s inside.
DON’T DOUBLE UP
For some reason, the myth of “putting on two condoms for double the safety” is still floating around. Please don’t do this! In fact, you’re putting your and your partner at higher risk doing this because the extra friction can cause tearing. The same goes for using a male AND female condom. One is fine. You can increase your sex safety by using extra birth control as well as being honest about your sexual heath.
USE THE RIGHT LUBE
Some lubes don’t work with condoms – specifically oil-based ones. The ingredients can cause the material to breakdown. Just stick with water-based or even silicone lube.
KNOW WHEN TO STOP
All of a sudden things feel different, or even better? Please pull out and check that things aren’t broken.
CHANGE IT OUT
I’ve seen different numbers sounding this piece of advice, but the general idea is to change out your protection for a new one every 15 to 30 minutes. This is because, again, friction is pleasurable but it’s not your friend when it comes to avoiding rips or tears. This also ties into the next tip…
A NEW ONE PER INTERCOURSE
If you’ve ejaculated, taken a break, and then want another round, make sure to use a new one!
DON’T SLEEP WITH IT ON
Post coital bliss can pull us into snuggles … and/or snoring. However, before you say hello to the Sandman, take it off. Also, don’t fall asleep “inside” your partner. That being said…
Yeah, it might be tempting to toss it on the floor or wherever – I’ve had a partner that did that…ew. But it’s not just avoiding pregnancy that proper disposal becomes important. There are some STIs that can come from just skin contact. Wrap it in a tissue or tie off the end and put it inside the wrapper, then toss it in the garbage. Do NOT flush them down the toilet!
BE WARY OF QUALITY
It goes without saying, but some condoms are better than others – even comparing cheap to cheap or high-end to high-end. However, regardless of price, there are some things you should watch out for, specifically the special stamp – Condoms must be labeled with a quality assurance mark to be considered safe.
ISO 4074 – (International Organization for Standardization) quality and standard levels for male latex condoms
ISO 13485 – products have met the essential standards of a medical II device
European CE mark – means the product is safe for European distribution and meets the essential requirements for a medical device.
BSI kite mark – this is the British version of the CE mark
NOW, IT’S SAF*ER SEX
Remember, birth control and other sex aids are not 100%. And since there is the chance of any one of them failing, make sure to have multiple options ready and at your disposal.
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Any crazy condom stories you want to share? Leave a comment!
Have a safe and sexy day,
Article credit to : Lovense.com
Swinging isn’t just a pastime for the local park. It’s a global community of people who engage in sexual relations as a recreational or social activity — and it’s thriving more than you might think.
According to Daniel Stern, author of Swingland and a 10-year swinging veteran himself, there are an estimated 15 million swingers around the globe, and you’d be hard-pressed to figure out which of your family members or neighbors are secretly swinging at first glance. “They are teachers and police officers and lawyers and business people; it’s every walk of life,” Stern says. “I posit that everyone is one degree away from a swinger; they just don’t know it.”
Stern first looked into swinging when he was in his late 20s and perceived himself as terrible at sex. He decided to seek out sexual practice before landing in another relationship, so he perked up when he heard an acquaintance mention “The Lifestyle” at a party. “Upon hearing his description of this carnal fantasy-land, I thought, ‘I want to go to there,’” he explains. “However, locating The Lifestyle and accessing all of its fruits were two wholly different achievements.” For several months, Stern had to ingratiate himself to the swingers he met in order to prove that he wasn’t just another single male looking for a quickie. “Gut-wrenchingly horrendous single male behavior is all too well known among Lifestylers — pushy, rude and selfish among the most common descriptors,” he says. It took him a while, but after six months, he was in.
Once he was inside the swinging subculture, Stern was surprised by what he found. He explains that he had preconceived notions of swingers that weren’t exactly flattering or, apparently, accurate. “The major stereotypes are that swingers are a subculture of overly libidinous miscreants that want to [have sex with] anything with a pulse,” he says. What he found, however, was that swingers are just regular men and women who may be a little more kinky than the average person, and often a lot more tolerant. “I’ve found swingers to be the most accepting and caring lot I’ve come to know in this life,” Stern says. “It’s probably because we’re all outside society’s norm, so we understand.”
He also found that The Lifestyle comes with a social hierarchy that took him some time to figure out. According to Stern, the sexual ecosystem of the swinging subculture is ruled by couples. Single women, similarly, are like unicorns and have carte blanche. In a role reversal that is surprising to outsiders, it is the single men who tend to lack power in the swinging subculture, and are the most likely to only be tolerated.
Even though Stern enjoys The Lifestyle and boasts of its sexual and social benefits, he is quick to say that swinging is not for everyone. Since outing oneself as a member of an outcast subculture can carry serious mainstream social consequences, many swingers find that they have to maintain a double-life. “You’re essentially living two lives, and that can be beyond exhausting,” Stern says.
He also cautions people against trying The Lifestyle as a way to fix an aspect of their lives. For instance, Stern says that some people seem to view swinging as an answer to a paltry sex life, but viewing swinging as a quick way to get sex misses the point entirely. “The Lifestyle is about people looking to have sex with like-minded people,” he explains. “Anyone who forgets the people part of that equation will be blackballed faster than they can disrobe.” It’s also common for couples to try swinging as a last ditch effort to save their relationships. Doing so, however, will only accelerate the relationship’s demise since trust and communication are necessary to make it as a swinging couple.
So tell us — we would love to hear your experiences of what bought you into the lifestyle so comment below …